Being a therapist sounds pretty easy, right? I hear that sometimes. How hard can it be to plop down in your chair, listen to someone talk for an hour, nod your head a few times, and maybe check in on how whatever it is they are talking about makes them feel every once in a while? Well, its really not quite that simple...unless you're just not a very involved or helpful therapist. Don't get me wrong. There's a lot to be said about the power of just being heard - in providing a nonjudgmental place for people to share their stories...their loss, their trauma, their suffering, their ups, and their downs....their wins and accomplishments... I won't discount that for a moment....but for a therapist who really wants to help, it's not as simple as just listening. It's about really actively listening. It's about trying to get a deep understanding of what's going on. It's about helping people untangle their thoughts and understand the complexity of themselves. It's about continuing to learn and to grow...It's about helping people "connect dots" with a deep level of curiosity and trying to figure out what it is that will help someone really heal...and that's hard work that takes about every ounce of energy and attention available. That, and outside of that sacred 50 minutes, there's a lot that goes on behind the scenes that many people who are not therapists aren't aware of. The time you reserve and pay for often extends far beyond the hour we spend together.
If you're looking for a Counselor in Tampa - or anywhere for that matter - it can be hard to know where to start. It's an overwhelming task. Look up therapists near me in the Tampa Bay area on Psychology Today directory and you'll get close to ONE THOUSAND results. Because there's a lot of filtering to be done, it can be helpful to get clear on a few things and to know what you're looking for before you begin. Here are a few questions to ask yourself and to answer to help you get started.
I get the struggle. It's hard to find balance in life when you have a demanding career. For me, it's fine line between being bored and being burned out. Too little work and I'm feeling restless and unfulfilled. Too much work and I'm stressed, more irritable, and not able to be as present as I need to be for the work I'm doing - and not able to as easily enjoy my down time. When you have an emotionally or mentally taxing career, the lines between work and personal life can easily become blurred. You take work home with you, find yourself working extra hours, and might even be sorting through the clutter of everything you have to do when what your brain really needs is rest.
So when it comes to therapy, there are several different modalities (or approaches). Different therapists tend to gravitate to different styles and theories. Psychoanalytic therapy, for example, is an approach of therapy that focuses more on the subconscious mind and past experiences as a way of better understanding who we are and why we do what we do. Solution-Focused Therapy, on the other hand, focuses more on the present and future, what's working, what's not working, and goals designed to change thinking and behaviors. There are many other counseling theories/approaches that I won't get into here today - as I'll be more focused on types of therapy in a more general sense. If you're looking into working with a therapist, though, it's good to get an idea of the different theoretic orientations (See more about that here) and to understand the approach your potential therapist might take in order to find the best fit for you. It's not uncommon for therapists to alter their style or to switch between different methods depending on what you might need. Some therapists consider themselves "eclectic" in this sense - deriving ideas from a broad range of sources.
Relationship Traps: by Licensed Therapist and Certified Addiction Professional, Alicia Divico (Owner and Therapist) at Personal Wellness Solutions in Tampa, Florida.
I have watched a lot of people date (not to mention the dating I’ve done myself), and let me tell you, I have learned a lot. Everything about the way we operate as humans is complex and dating/romance is no exception. We have our childhood that plays a role, we have unconscious factors that draw us in, and we have experiences of pain and discomfort that create barriers. Usually, we are not good at seeing our own patterns nor are we good at getting out of our own way. This is where therapy can be very useful. Here are a few “traps” if you will that I see often:
If you're looking for a Counselor in Tampa - or anywhere for that matter - it can be hard to know where to start. It's …