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Things to Bring up in Therapy – Even if they’re Kinda Hard to Talk about

Therapy is an interesting thing.  The therapeutic relationship between therapist and client - unique and unlike any other relationship.  We share about our past, our secrets, our fears, struggles, and our hopes and dreams...It's one of the few places we can go where no topic is off limits or too taboo.  Your therapist, non judgmental and acting with "unconditional positive regard" for you, provides not only an active listening ear, but acts to be as objective and unbiased as might be possible in their feedback to you.  They promote healing and growth, and sometimes take you to uncomfortable places - all within one of the safest and most protected of spaces...and even though there's no direction you can go that your therapist should not be open to exploring within the context of healthy boundaries, some things are hard to talk about in Therapy.  As with life and with our personal relationships outside of therapy, it's often the difficult conversations that we can be most tempted to avoid - as important as they might be.

Leaving things unsaid in therapy can create barriers that make it difficult to move forward or to get the kind of progress you ultimately want to see.  Here are a few things that are important to bring up to your therapist - even if they're hard to talk about. Conflict-avoidance is one of the most common issues people struggle with (and that we see in therapy), so working through these things in therapy will ultimately help you practice the kind of communication you want to have in your personal life and often prove beneficial to the therapy process.

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Your All-Things-Anxiety Resource

Struggling with anxiety? This page is an "all-things-anxiety" resource. We'll discuss types of anxiety, causes of anxiety, treatments for anxiety, and provide a few quick and helpful strategies and resources for anxiety.

What Anxiety is

To start with - EVERYBODY deals with anxiety. Anxiety is your body's natural response to stress.  Anxiety is typically future-oriented and is associated with feelings of fear, worry, uneasiness, or dread. Although we typically frame "anxiety" as a bad thing, anxiety served us from an evolutionary perspective by its ability to warn us of potential dangers and to help us prepare for situations that require action. In threatening situations, our all-on fight-flight-freeze response kicks in to help us survive whatever dangerous situation we might be in. At its best - and when it's truly needed - anxiety is your very own built-in "Super Hero". At times, though, your "Super Hero" is just a little bit overprotective and kicks in full blast when it's not totally necessary.

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Depression puzzle, whole person treatment, treating depression

Solving the Puzzle: A Whole-Person Approach to Treating Depression

When it comes to treating depression, there's no clear-cut one-size-fits-all approach...that's because depression can be complex - and there are usually multiple contributing factors that can be sort of like puzzle to sort out.  Research has pointed us to some answers, though, and some of the causes of depression include: genetic links, brain chemistry, hormonal changes, certain medications or alcohol/drugs, interpersonal conflict, loss, major life events, illness or chronic pain, lack of physical movement/exercise, inadequate nutrition, anxiety, distorted thinking patterns, traumatic or stressful events, illness, low self-esteem, and a lacking social support network.  

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Moderate Drinking – Is it Right for You?

We often have people reach out to us because they want help with their drinking.  They don’t necessarily want to quit – but hope to develop a healthier relationship with alcohol.  In the world of mental health and substance abuse, it’s often the case that resources are lacking for people who don’t want or need a black and white approach to help them with with their unhealthy drinking patterns.  Read more

Getting Past the Barrier of Low Motivation

One of the things I see people struggle with most is lack of motivation.  This ultimately leads to a vicious cycle of procrastination, carrying the weight of all things left undone, and guilt for putting those things off.  Whether we’re talking about exercise, staying organized/clean, keeping up with that to-do list, developing better habits, or daunting work projects, we all struggle at times to find the motivation needed to “just do it”. When we just don’t feel like it, we put it off til later.  After all, there’s always tomorrow.  The problem with this, however, is that tomorrow often turns into the next day, week, month or year. This leaves us feeling discouraged and reinforces the idea that we just don’t have what it takes to stay on top of things or to develop healthier patterns that stick. Read more

talking to therapist, concerns in therapy, conflict avoidance, assertiveness, therapy, counseling

Things to Bring up in Therapy – Even if they’re Kinda Hard to Talk about

Therapy is an interesting thing.  The therapeutic relationship between therapist and client - unique and unlike any other …

all things anxiety

Your All-Things-Anxiety Resource

Struggling with anxiety? This page is an "all-things-anxiety" resource. We'll discuss types of anxiety, causes of anxiety, …

Depression puzzle, whole person treatment, treating depression

Solving the Puzzle: A Whole-Person Approach to Treating Depression

When it comes to treating depression, there's no clear-cut one-size-fits-all approach...that's because depression can be …