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Healthy Ways to deal with a Breakup – Do’s and Don’ts

Breakups are on a short list of some of the most heartbreaking and painful experiences in life.  Whether the breakup was mutual, a decision you made, or something you didn’t see coming – it’s a loss.  After all, you invested time, energy, and emotion into the relationship.  A part of your identity was associated with your ex.  Daily routines probably involved communicating with this person, spending time with them, and relying on one another for some form of support.  Getting over a breakup isn’t easy, but there are things you can do to cope with the loss more effectively.  Below is a list of the things you should (and should not do) to cope best during this difficult time. Read more

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3 Tips for Sleep when your Thoughts are Getting in the Way

I came up for the idea for this post, ironically, as I found myself lying in bed at 3am thinking about what to write for my next blog post.  After a few minutes of allowing my mind to wander and come up with new ideas for the next BIG smash blog post, I realized that it was only a couple more hours until I needed to get up for work and that now was not the time to be brainstorming. It was keeping me up, and I needed to be well-rested for a day ahead with plenty in store.  There was a better time and place to be thinking, and in bed at 3am was not the time nor place.  I immediately realized that THIS was exactly what I wanted to write about and picked up my phone to jot down a few of my ideas so that I could access what I came up with at a more reasonable time of day.  It took me about 2 minutes to jot down a few ideas.  I then put my phone down, closed my eyes, and drifted off to sleep. Read more

Cognitive Distortions

Recognizing and Challenging Distorted Thoughts

News Flash: Life is hard. All of the “positive thinking” in the world won’t change the fact that we’re bound to be faced with difficulties that make it hard to feel good at times.  The reality is – that along with life – comes stress, hardship, loss, having to deal with our own limitations/weaknesses, injustice, and being forced to deal with less-than-pleasant people.  It’s hard enough to navigate life without falling into the trap of thinking about yourself and your circumstances in a way that distort your perception of reality and make things seem even worse than they actually are. Read more

Social Situation

Approaching Social Situations from a new Perspective

For this post, I just wanted to share a small tid-bit from a podcast I listened to by Sam Harris this week. Sam Harris is a neuroscientist, a philosopher, and best-selling author who – aside from many other things – puts a large emphasis on the benefits of mindfulness meditation. In his newly released course,“The Waking up Course”, he introduces the practice of mindfulness meditation and mindfulness techniques by guiding the listener through the process.  Throughout the course, he also shares his own philosophy as it relates to reasoning more effectively and understanding yourself and the people around you. Read more

Reasons why People Don’t do Therapy

Issues such as work-related stress, relationship problems, anxiety, depression, conflict with family, and unresolved issues from the past are just a few of the reasons people decide to start therapy.  Therapy involves talking through problems, gaining insight about yourself – and why you do the things you do, exploring effective ways of dealing with problems, and learning new ways to think about the difficulties faced.  Despite the significant amount of relief so many people gain from starting therapy, some people who could benefit, either have a difficult time getting started, or never even consider it as an option. Below is a list of some of the most common reasons why people don’t do therapy. Read more

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A Day in the Life of a Therapist (This Therapist)

Being a therapist sounds pretty easy, right?  I hear that sometimes.  How hard can it be to plop down in your chair, listen …

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Finding a Therapist in Tampa – Considerations & what to Look for

If you're looking for a Counselor in Tampa - or anywhere for that matter - it can be hard to know where to start.  It's …

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Creating Balance with a Demanding Career

I get the struggle.  It's hard to find balance in life when you have a demanding career.  For me, it's fine line between …