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Risks and Benefits of Therapy

People decide to start therapy for a wide variety of reasons. Whatever the reason, though, it usually boils down to wanting better – or at least wanting to feel better.  Therapy can be very effective in helping people accomplish just that.  Therapy can be a place to learn about yourself, to gain perspective, and to learn new ways of thinking about and interacting with the world.  Because of this, therapy isn’t generally thought of as a “risky” kind of thing to do.  Even though it’s much more likely that therapy will be beneficial, it does bring about a certain amount of risk that should be considered – if for no other reason than to understand that it might not be easy. I’ll first outline what a few of those risks are and then close with the benefits (that I think highly outweigh the potential of any risks involved). Read more

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Looking for Advice? You might be Disappointed.

I remember being corrected very quickly on the first day of my first graduate-level Intro to Counseling Course – back when I was a wee-little aspiring Therapist – when I used the word “advice” to refer to something that might be offered to a client during a therapy session.  “We don’t give advice”, I was told by my professor.  She then went on to explain all of the reasons why…I got it…but it prompted a huge shift in the ideas I had about therapy and how it is we go about promoting and facilitating change in the lives of others.  Read more

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Ask a Therapist Anything – Part 1 of 3

I recently reached out to family and friends on Social Media giving them the opportunity to “Ask a Therapist Anything”.  In my Blog posts  I strive for as much transparency as possible and try to provide people with a glimpse into the often mysterious/private world of Therapy.  I’ve written about why people decide to go (or not to go) to therapy, benefits of therapy, a little bit about what actually happens in my office, and more.  I wondered, though, what questions people have about therapy that I may not have considered.  The response I got when providing people with the opportunity to ask me anything was great….and I want to go ahead and jump right in to answering the questions.  Although many of my answers are broadly true as it relates to therapy in general, keep in mind that the answers to these questions are from the perspective of one Therapist alone – ME.  Ask the same questions to another Therapist and the answer might be a little bit different. Follow this 3-part series to hear the answer to the question about whether or not I’ve been to therapy myself along with a long list of other questions that I hope you’ll find intriguing. Read more

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Finding the BEST Therapist in Tampa

Spoiler Alert: Although I know a lot of GREAT Therapists in Tampa, I won’t be recommending any single best Therapist for you in this blog post.  Why, you ask?  Well If I did have to make that recommendation, then my bias alone would force me to recommend myself 🙂 – and it might not be true FOR YOU.  That’s because the best Therapist just so happens to be the Therapist that is best for you. Read more

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Let me tell you about my Clients

Before anybody reading this freaks out, I should start by saying there are a few things that prevent me from sharing any specific details (or identifying information) about the individuals I work with. They’re things like HIPAA, The American Counseling Association’s Code of Ethics, and a set of personal values/beliefs (outside of legal requirements) I hold that allow me to create an environment of trust. The sensitive things people share with me stay within the 4 walls of my office. As I attempt to draw a picture for you about the people I work with, I’ll do so in a very general sense – in a way that allows me to illustrate the kind of common traits I see and the admiration and gratitude I have for the people who allow me the privilege of joining them on a very personal kind of journey. Read more

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Your Therapist – on the Journey as Well

The “therapeutic relationship” refers to the relationship between counselor and client in therapy.  Therapy is a kind of human interaction and relationship that is different than most.  When we engage in therapy, we are engaging in a kind of contract that outlines the roles of the Therapist vs. Client. What is expected of each is entirely different and without the kind of reciprocal expectations one might find in that of a friendship or relationship with a family member.  The therapist provides the trusted ear, the safe and confidential place for change, and the knowledge/perspective gained from years worth of education and experience.  The Therapist is the provider – the one meeting the needs.  The Client, on the other hand, (aside from the fee) is free from the expectation of meeting the needs of the provider. It’s a relationship that includes a framework, and appropriately so, certain boundaries.  Client and Therapist, for example, keep the relationship in the room where the session takes place.  This means that other than the possibility of an email or a phone call/text to sort out scheduling details, interactions don’t take place outside of therapy.  It’s personal, yes – but also professional. Read more

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“So How does that make you feel?” – What Really Happens in Therapy?

If you’ve never been to therapy before, there are probably a few things that come to mind when you think about it – and those things probably come to mind as a result of what you’ve been exposed to in the media and in Hollywood depictions.  Perhaps you imagine lying on a couch and being asked to talk about how you feel.  Your therapist nods his or her head, jots down some notes, glances at the time, gives you a prescription for something that will make you feel better, and then schedules your next appointment.  Or maybe you imagine being “psychoanalyzed” or having to dig up old childhood skeletons before being given instructions as to what changes you need to start making in your life. Read more

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Why we get Stuck – And Steps to Getting “Unstuck”

Are you feeling stuck?  If so, you know it’s a frustrating feeling.  Whether in the context of a relationship, a career, or the mundane routine of day-to-day life, it comes along with wanting change – or wanting more.  You might feel like you’re on the treadmill of life – moving along, but not really getting anywhere.  Other times, it feels more like facing a multi-pronged fork in the road – being faced with several options or possible decisions to make, but with no idea as to which you should choose.  The fear of picking the wrong one can lead to no action at all.  Regardless of what it is that has you stuck, feeling stuck is actually a good thing and can lead to positive change if you’re willing to do something about it.  After all, you only feel stuck because you’re at a place in your life where you know something has to be done.  Although it won’t be easy, with some reflection and readiness for change, you can get unstuck. Read more

Reasons why People Don’t do Therapy

Issues such as work-related stress, relationship problems, anxiety, depression, conflict with family, and unresolved issues from the past are just a few of the reasons people decide to start therapy.  Therapy involves talking through problems, gaining insight about yourself – and why you do the things you do, exploring effective ways of dealing with problems, and learning new ways to think about the difficulties faced.  Despite the significant amount of relief so many people gain from starting therapy, some people who could benefit, either have a difficult time getting started, or never even consider it as an option. Below is a list of some of the most common reasons why people don’t do therapy. Read more

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When a Fear Becomes a Phobia

We can all identify certain things we are afraid of.  Public speaking, snakes, heights, spiders, social situations, enclosed …

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When a Furry Friend Departs this World

A few months ago, something I had been dreading for years happened.  Our 14 year old dog, Pierre, died.  Despite his age, …

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Risks and Benefits of Therapy

People decide to start therapy for a wide variety of reasons. Whatever the reason, though, it usually boils down to wanting …